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Cleveland Jewish News
Supreme Court hears international residence case
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The Spectrum, WCMH-TV NBC 4 – Video
Zashin & Rich International Child Custody Case to US Supreme Court
December 10, 2019

ABC 13 TV – Video
Supreme Court to hear international custody case involving Ohio mother
December 10, 2019

Cleveland.com
U.S. Supreme Court to hear international child custody dispute from Cleveland area
December 10, 2019

Case Western Reserve University School of Law
U.S. Supreme Court hears arguments in case briefed by CWRU law school faculty
December 9, 2019

Cleveland Jewish News
International residence case moves to US Supreme Court
June 21, 2019

Hollywood Life
Khloe Kardashian and Tristan Thompson’s Custody Case Could Get ‘Very Messy’: Lawyer Explains
February 27, 2019

2018 Ohio Super Lawyers
Cleveland family law attorney Andrew Zashin gets a 6th Circuit ruling that brings consistency to cases involving vulnerable children
November 8, 2018

Your Teen for Parents: Guide to Parenting through Divorce
Advocating for Yourself During a Divorce: 3 Tips from a Divorce Attorney
October 2018

Case Western Reserve University School of Law
Adjunct Professors Zashin, Keating and Reynolds take on path-breaking Hague Convention Case
June 21, 2018

2018 Ohio Super Lawyers
Family law attorney Andrew Zashin asks the 6th Circuit to bring consistency to cases involving vulnerable children
June 19, 2018

Cleveland Jewish News
Landmark international residence case could impact those making aliyah
June 14, 2018

WJR Detroit – Audio Interview
Attorney Andrew Zashin chats with Guy Gordon to discuss the new Illinois law for dogs when parents are getting a divorce.
January 2, 2018

Cleveland Jewish News
Surrogacy, child custody laws develop as cases arise
November 21, 2017

Smart Business Cleveland
2017 Smart Business Family Business Achievement Awards
September 2017

Crain's Cleveland Business
Ohio Employers Confront Marijuana Use
July 22, 2017

Lake View Cemetery Heritage ReView
Trustee Spotlight: Andrew Zashin
Spring 2017

Sports Illustrated
Lane Johnson's Bold Move To Sue His Own Union Is Rare, But Not Unprecedented
January 11, 2017

Law360
Packers Player Drops NFL Drug Suspension Dispute
December 19, 2016

Sports Business Daily
NFL, NFLPA Appoint Das As Third Arbitrator In Michael Pennel Lawsuit
December 5, 2016

Sports Business Journal
Eagles Lineman Challenges NFL and NFLPA in NLRB Filings
December 5, 2016

Law360
Eagles Lineman Says Suspension Violates Federal Labor Law
November 29, 2016

The Business of Sports with Andrew Brandt
RTAB #30: Lane Johnson's Legal Team (Audio Interview)
November 29, 2016

Cleveland Jewish News
Ohio Woman Receives Orthodox Divorce Decree
January 14, 2016

BNA's Health Law Reporter
Surprise! The NLRB Says You Just Might Be a 'Joint Employer'
September 24, 2015

BNA's Health Law Reporter
NLRB Adopts New Joint Employer Standard; Ruling Could Affect Health-Care Industry
September 3, 2015

BNA's Health Law Reporter
Challenge to NLRB Election Rule Fails; Employers Urged to Prepare New Game Plan
June 11, 2015

American Bar Association Section of Labor and Employment Law
Member Spotlight: George S. Crisci
April 13, 2015

The Plain Dealer
Attorney Goes To Bat for Northeast Ohio
January 18, 2015

Cleveland Jewish News
Profile on Andrew Zashin
January 15, 2015

"Here and Now" National NPR Show - Audio Interview
In A Divorce, Who Gets To Keep The Dog?
December 4, 2014

Crain's - Article and Video
Zashin & Rich embraces Cleveland roots and rock 'n' roll heritage
November 16, 2014

BNA's Health Law Reporter
Justices Reject NLRB Recess Appointments; Significant Health Care Decisions in Limbo
July 10, 2014

BNA's Health Law Reporter
The EEOC and FTC Turn Up the Heat on Employer Background Checks
April 2014

Crain’s
Zashin & Rich move marks big milestone
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November 2013

Cleveland.com
Zashin & Rich law firm leases last full floor of Ernst & Young Tower at Flats East Bank project
November 2013

Associated Press
US Claims Father Illegally Moved Kids to Gaza
May 2012

2012 Ohio Super Lawyers
Mentors | Andrew Zashin: Reminiscing About Robert Zashin
January 2012

CCH Employment Law Daily
NLRB NEWS - Controversy Erupts Over NLRB Recess Appointments
January 2012

Huff Post
Divorce's Impact On Small Businesses Can Be 'Immense'
October 2011

The Today Show - Video
Accused Facebook bigamist heads to court
September 2010

MSNBC
Facebook Busts Accused Bigamist - Woman Finds Her Prince Charming Has Married Another
July 2010

WKYC - Article and Video
Cleveland woman discovers husband's 'other' wife via Facebook
July 2010

Cleveland Jewish News
New custody center in Israel is Zashin’s passion
January 1, 2010

Worth Magazine
Top 100 Attorneys 2007
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Inside Business Magazine
Connecting Through Separation
Profile on Andrew Zashin
December 2007

Cleveland Jewish News
Valuing and dividing assets at the time of divorce
By Andrew Zashin, Esq.
February 2007

Case School of Law: In Brief
Plugged into Family, the Law, and Cleveland
Alumni Spotlight on Andrew Zashin
Spring 2005

Cleveland Magazine
The Divorcing Woman’s Best Friend
Feature Article Profiling Andrew Zashin
November 2004

Crain’s
Companies should consider coverage against employee-related claims
By Stephen Zashin | July 2004

Crain’s
ADR programs can save dollars and time
By Stephen Zashin | November 2003

COSE Update: Legal Ease
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(Employment Practices Liability Insurance)
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COSE Update: Legal Ease
Noncompete Agreements
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COSE Update: Legal Ease
Ohio's 'Baby COBRA' Law
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Your Teen for Parents: Guide to Parenting through Divorce

Advocating for Yourself During a Divorce: 3 Tips from a Divorce Attorney

October 2018 | By Kyleigh A. Weinfurtner, | Download PDF of Article


Advocating for Yourself During a Divorce: 3 Tips from a Divorce Attorney, By Kyleigh Weinfurtner

 

When new clients meet with divorce lawyer Kyleigh A. Weinfurtner, they’re likely cycling through one of the emotional stages of divorce. In the beginning, it’s often sadness and anger. By the end, they often push forward with a business-like, “let’s be done with this,” approach. Divorce is a marathon, however, not a sprint. As the saying goes, “Divorce only moves as fast as the slowest person.”

“My tagline is, ‘We’re working towards your new normal,’” says Weinfurtner of Ohio-based Zashin & Rich. To get to that point, Weinfurtner suggests a few tips on how women can advocate for their best interests during a divorce.

Get support

During a divorce, women have a lot to process—emotionally, financially and logistically —and they have some huge decisions to make. Weinfurtner suggests women utilize a therapist or counselor experienced in handling divorce matters to work through their emotions, so that they can think more clearly and make more rational decisions. “It’s best to unravel those feelings with a counselor and solid support network, not your divorce lawyer,” Weinfurtner says. But Weinfurtner’s recommendation also has a practical side: Talking with a counselor cuts costs—and getting a divorce isn’t cheap. “A lot of times people will use their domestic relations lawyer as their sounding board, which we can be, but that’s very expensive,” Weinfurtner explains. “There are a lot of emotions rolling around—you want to cry and scream—but you’re playing me out of position by using me as a therapist rather than a trained mental health professional.”

Focus on life post-divorce

Many women lose sight of the long view when they focus on the immediate “wins” in a divorce settlement, Weinfurtner says. She regularly reminds her clients of this: “There’s a life after divorce. What do you want that to look like for you?” Getting the family home, for instance, might mean you won’t have to uproot your kids now. But that home, affordable for a married couple, may be too expensive for a single parent. “If you want 70 percent of your income going to your house, maybe that makes sense to you,” she said. “If you don’t, we need to think of a different strategy.” This long-term approach applies to more than just the spoils of marriage, but also to relationships. Is it worth fighting for half of your ex-husband’s business, for instance, or is it better to walk away to maintain a civil relationship with him for the kids? The answer depends on each woman’s specific situation, she states.

Expect to hate your lawyer—sometimes

As a neutral third party, a divorce attorney can keep the process moving forward. They can dive into the details, ferreting out critical information about a couple’s finances and assets. And occasionally, they’ll give advice that’s hard to hear. Listen to your lawyers. “I’m not here to tell clients that they are right,” Weinfurtner says. “I’m here to give advice. Sometimes you’re going to hate me because you don’t like what I’m telling you. But that’s my job.” But her job also includes a bit of cheerleading. She regularly gives pep talks to her clients too. “It may very well suck, but you will get through it,” Weinfurtner tells her clients. “There is a light at the end of the tunnel.”

Kyleigh A. Weinfurtner is an attorney with the law firm of Zashin & Rich. She can be reached at kaw@zrlaw.com.